SOUL FOOD: Support Your Girl Gang
Key word: support
The sun is shining and Monday is here once again!
This post is gonna be lengthy and it's gonna get pretty deep so fair warning to buckle your seat belts and enjoy the ride because we're gonna be talking about something that the ELK team is so passionate about.
SUPPORTING YOUR FELLOW WOMEN.
We can all agree that being a woman in today's society is hard. We feel pressured to compare ourselves to every beautiful girl we see and a lot of the time it creates this idea that we have to tear other women down to feel superior. I used to be totally guilty of this, as I think many of us are, but as I've become more confident in who I am and surrounded myself with amazing, strong, intelligent women, I have realized that this way of thinking is one of the most toxic things you can ever do to yourself and your self esteem.
A few years ago I was guilty of that toxic way of thinking. I was constantly comparing myself to every girl and thinking mean, judgmental thoughts about them. As ugly and horrible as that sounds, allow me to explain myself. I was so unconfident in who I was. This way of thinking always stems from a place of insecurity. I was lost and insecure and i felt like if I could convince myself that every girl out there wasn't as amazing as I knew they were then I wouldn't feel the way I felt about myself, as if it could somehow fix my insecurities. Even as I'm writing this it makes no sense to me because of how wrong I was. It wasn't until I found my true friends, the women who taught me to be confident, supported me, and showed me kindness and love that I was able to pull myself out of that dark head space and begin to heal myself. That is what is so amazing about loving your girls. By helping them instead of tearing them down you're able to help heal THEIR insecurities. You're able to help them become better women and show them that they can reach anything they put their minds to.
Kiley money (co founder of ELK as I'm sure you all know) has been one of my closest friends since the 7th grade. I could go on and on about all the things this beautiful lady has taught me, but one day she said something to me that I will never forget and it had one of the biggest impacts on my life. She said "if you can't love yourself for who you are, love other woman for the amazing qualities you see in them" the light bulb in my head exploded. It suddenly all made sense. Loving and supporting other women in who they are, what they say, what they wear and what they are passionate about helps you be able to recognize and support yourself in all of those areas.
I will say it bluntly, I will say it in the realist way I can. Trash talking other women will NOT make you feel better. It will not help your insecurities. It will not help you become a better person. It will not make you prettier, thinner, richer, or more popular. 9 times out of 10 the girl your jealous of probably feels the same way about you! Let's end this petty cycle and support our girls. We all know how hard it is to be a woman, so why don't we join together? Think of how amazing this world would be if we all spoke kindly of our fellow lady bosses and showed nothing but love and support. I think it would be the start of a revolution that I am happy to say is becoming more and more profound everyday.
I urge you to tell the next girl you see on the street that you love her shirt. Smile at the lady in the grocery store with screaming children. As one of the best tumblr quotes I've ever seen says, "better to be the one who smiled than the one who didn't smile back". Long story short LOVE AND BE LOVED Y'ALL
ELK pop up will be at Kilby court tomorrow with Zealyn rocking the night away! Come hang out and listen to some killer tunes and shop your favs 💗
Have a stellar week and don't forget to tell the women in your life that they're rad.
Inspire and be inspired ✌🏼️